Energy healing · ties and separation
Cord cutting ritual with a guide
A cord is the tie that keeps pulling after a relationship has ended: to a former partner, to a parent, to a friend you still argue with in your head. Online it is cut in a 5 minute visualisation. With our guides it takes longer, because first you have to see what the cord is made of and whose it is.
What a cord is
The tie that outlives the relationship
In the language of energy work, people who have mattered to each other stay joined by threads. Most of them are alive and kind: love, gratitude, the memory of being held. Some grow heavy. You have left a marriage and still answer him in the shower. Your mother lives 3 time zones away, and one message from her still decides your whole evening.
A heavy cord is usually made of something unfinished: a word never said, a debt you feel and cannot name, a role you took on as a child and never put down. Cut it with imaginary scissors without touching what it is made of, and it tends to hold for about a day.
That is why on our retreats the word you hear more often is release. The tie is seen, what is unfinished in it gets finished, and what remains is let go with respect.
With Evgenia
Separation and constellations
In Universal Therapy one of the 7 levels the work goes down to is called parents and separation: the place where you are still the daughter waiting for permission. Heavy cords often lead there, even when the person on the other end is a husband or a boss.
In a session Evgenia lays the relationship out in a constellation. You see where you stand, who stands behind the other person, what was taken and what was never given. Sometimes the sentence that releases the tie is short and old: this is yours, and this is mine. Said in the right place, it changes the field between two people.
Evgenia works one to one, so a cord can be released in a single session. On her retreats the field of the group holds this work as well.
With Lexa
What the body does once the tie is seen
Seeing the cord is half the work. The body has been holding its end for years and will not let go on command. This is where Lexa's practice comes in.
Breath that moves what is clenched, kundalini sets that loosen the spine, a long sound meditation where the bowls and the gong reach places words do not. One of the states Lexa names from her retreats is old fears and resentments, set down. A released cord often feels exactly like that: a resentment you no longer have to carry.
In Sedona one of the days belongs to the Sweat Lodge with M.H. Black Wolf. Darkness, heat and breath, and a space where everything outside gradually falls quiet and only what is yours remains.
Who guides it here
Who helps you let a tie go
Evgenia shows what the cord is made of. Lexa gives the body a way to release its end.
Evgenia Arkhipenko
Lays the relationship out in the field and finds the sentence after which each of the two stands in their own place.
Lexa · Amrita Devi Kaur
Builds the days of her retreats so that what has been held for years finds somewhere to move.
Where and when
Where to do this work with us
For a single session with Evgenia, write to us. For a retreat, the next one comes first below.
Miami, Florida
Universal Therapy with Evgenia Arkhipenko in a Miami house: work with the field and the family line. Milena Chernomorets curates the retreat.
Sedona, Arizona
Lexa's retreat with sound meditations, breathwork and a Sweat Lodge in the dark.
Mount Shasta, California
Lexa's September retreat at the mountain, a quiet place to put something heavy down.
Kauai, Hawaii
Evgenia's July retreat on Kauai, where the field of the group held the deeper work.
Miami, Florida
Vadim Borisov's NeuroWave course, for ties the body still holds as tension.
Questions
About ties and letting go
Will cutting a cord end my relationship with that person?
Not necessarily. What goes is the heavy part of the tie. What you do with the person afterwards is your decision.
Can I release a cord with a parent who has died?
Yes, and this is often where the work goes deepest. In a constellation a parent who has died can be given their place, and the conversation that never happened can finally be finished.
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